sitting with the last light - mjd 2013
i had the great good fortune to hear thich nhat hanh speak in manhattan today.
it was calm
and beautiful,
encouraging
and thought provoking.
one concept sitting deeply with me
is his discussion on
compassionate listening
and loving speech.
can we listen
openly
and without interruption
while someone speaks to us
of their suffering?
especially when it has been at our own hand?
can you wait 3 or 4 days
(as he suggests)
to clarify any misperceptions?
as a person who cringes
at any sign of conflict,
i feel a strong need
to resolve things
talk them out
explain myself
when my world gets disharmonious.
i get right speech.
i will bite right through my tongue
over saying something that will wound someone.
that's the truth -
because i know how words
can carve into your heart
and not be resolved by
'i'm sorry.'
this practice will be good
for me and my kids.
bumpy ride expected -
but at least it will be
in the name of kindness
understanding
and love.
